Are there any detailed maps for the journey into self? No. that's why we offer a compass we call THE 4-QUESTIONS. It's easy and reliable it is to use anywhere and in every situation you find yourself.. The journey for the best of your life takes focus, determination, discipline and guts. It doesn't just happen. Although many people we've worked with certainly make their successes seem effortless. They make it look easy because they repeat what they've learned; they think and behave at a four-dimensional level as result of knowing their answers to the 4-QUESTIONS.
Knowing who you are and having what you want is ultimately secondary to the trip you take to get there. It's the people you will meet, the people you love, the relationships and the experiences you have along the way that make life worth living. Enjoy your own journey by reflecting on the past, being in the present and planning for the best of your life!
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KNOWING WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT
"The manufacturing deal in China is taking longer than I ever thought, the CEO and our market specialist are coming over to Beijing to conclude the new wrinkles in the deal so we can keep our delivery dates in Chicago and Cleveland. The fact I couldn't do, didn't do this on my own doesn't do my career any good. This contract negotiation never seems to end--I'll be here at least another week. Looking at the calendar I realize I'm going to miss my son's birthday on Thursday. My daughter's dance recital is Saturday afternoon and Susan's and my fifteenth anniversary is that night. Susan's been planning our celebration for months. We're having a catered event with 60 of our best friends and family, some who are flying in for the event. Who am I? I'm The Company Man. This week I've just given up being father and husband. Who am I and what do I want? I'm Mr. Executive VP of Abandonment. What do I want? It doesn't seem to matter anymore what I want, because I never seem to be able to get it. There's always a glitch somewhere."
What would you suggest to Chuck?
REINVENTING YOURSELF
"Six months ago my company closed our New Jersey division where I live and I didn't know how we would make ends meet. Well, after hearing your talk, at my wife's suggestion, the whole family met about it like it was a family problem not just my problem. It was pretty cool, actually how a lousy break turned into the whole family pulling together. Here, in short is what happened after our meeting: My wife started substitute teaching and realized how much she missed it and has opted to work full time: my son, who's going to college accepted an offer from a school that offered him a full sports scholarship instead of the ivy league school that also accepted him; our older daughter said she would apply for a student loan for a state college here in New Jersey: and the other daughter who just got a job in publishing, said she's not going to move into the city and insists on paying room and board for one year. Funny thing, though, while I was working repairing a piece of furniture, I invented a new tool; I got a patent attorney and now Home Depot wants to buy in quantities for every store. I'll make a royalty off each one sold. It's looking pretty good. Here we are going through a crisis, I would have thought we were heading for disaster and it's turned into one of the best times we've ever had together as a family. Thanks for the early guidance."
TAKING CARE OF PARENTS
"I thought things were going just great, now my husband Andy's father suddenly needs 24-hour nursing care. Most of his dad's retirement and savings went to pay for his wife's last few years of life--she had surgeries that their insurance didn't cover. There's not enough money left to put him in an assisted care place for more than a few months. Andy is hinting that he may have to move in with us. How are we (we?--ME!) going to handle this? We hardly have enough room in our house for the five of us--who is going to take care of him? Me bathe, feed and clothe my father-n-law? He certainly can't be thinking things through. Andy commutes to work and I'm on the go interviewing for the magazine I work for--who's going to take care of US? Andy's company is going through a merger right now--is he going to be one of the few lucky people to keep his job? In the middle of the night I wake up in a sweat thinking-- there goes our savings! Now we get penalized for being cautious, frugal and planning for the future while Andy's brother is sitting around smoking weed and has nothing to show for his education. Andy says he'd be afraid to leave Luke alone with his father! What do I want? Who am I? I don't know who I am any more--what do I want? Those answers are a luxury that seems beyond my reach just now. Why does it matter any more what I want, if I'm not going to get it?"
Caring for aged parents is something most of us, if we're lucky to have parents who live a long time, will need to face? What could Andy and Clarissa do differently if they had taken the 2-day retreat?
PLEASING OTHERS AND NOT HIMSELF
"I'm a writer. I was lucky enough to acquire an agent in two weeks and who sold my novel in one week. They--my agent and publisher-- have all these ideas about me getting coached for the media--tv, radio, lectures, the works! Every time they mention Oprah! I shake inside. They talk about giving readings at bookstores and speaking at regional book conventions like it's falling out of bed. They think the topic of my novel is a hot subject. Maybe it is but that's not why I wrote it. I wrote it based on something that happened to my mother. I always wanted to write, but the last thing on earth I ever opted for was being in front of a crowd--certainly not in front of a camera, microphones or lecterns. Who am I? I'm a recluse/writer. What do I want? I want my work to stand on its own and for people to read it because they enjoy reading it. Now that doesn't seem like it's enough. Right now it doesn't seem enough to please all the people I suddenly find myself needing to please."
MISSING A RELATIONSHIP COMMITMENT
"I'm dating a guy, actually for the last four months we've been living together. I hint at getting married but never actually broach the subject because I'm afraid that it will scare him away. What do I want? I want to be married; I want to be a wife to Jeffrey and mother to our children. Who am I? Not engaged that's for sure! I'm hoping that things will work out yet afraid to upset the applecart. My friends are having babies and I'm not even close. I'm not even sure about my job--is it something I'm doing because it pays well and the people are okay or is this where my future lies? Why is my life so unsettled, when everyone else I know seems like they've got things wired?"
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